I can relate a lot! I may be just a teenager, but this strikes well with me and a lot of people.
I used to think I was strange because I never really fit in perfectly. I don’t play CSGO because I go outside my house and play Airsoft. I don’t scroll social media because I’m too busy partying with real people. I don’t binge Netflix because I’m too busy being present.
I do things and desire things that others my age don’t, which kinda makes me different in a lot of ways. Although being an extrovert by heart who loves meeting new people and talking to strangers, It took me awhile to realize the beautiful value of being in solitude.
I’ve got a lot of friends but I never feel as if I can be 100% myself with some of them. There are some friends I go to for my excitement needs, emotional needs, and intellectual needs.
I used to have this frustration thinking that “I was in the wrong” for not fitting in, but after some time I realized that “not fitting in” is actually an advantage.
Why waste our time with people who can’t keep up?
Why hide our obscure hobbies, amazing music tastes and fashion senses?
Life can be weird, and sometimes conversations with complete strangers about life, philosophy and meaning can be more meaningful and fulfilling than the typical pop culture bullshit we talk about with our cliques.
This is a well written article, and I think you’ll be interested in this one I wrote: https://medium.com/wireless-bidet/subtle-signs-you-keep-settling-for-less-b81acd06f324